A Culture With No Mistakes

Education today is heading in a direction where play is being undervalued and testing is being overvalued. There are many challenges as a play advocate and it becomes discouraging to find just the right evidence that will convince others to support PLAY as a learning vehicle for children versus rote instruction, worksheets, and testing. Past and much of current education is designed on the model of following instructions and not on being leaders and thinkers. Yet, we want our children to become inventors, problem solvers, and successful active members of society. Part of being successful is failure … making mistakes. We grade children and ridicule them for such things … we teach them to feel shame for failing and not to learn from it. We create children that are afraid to fail and take risks. But, play does allow this. It is a free space to try and try again, to fail, to test out ideas, to take risks. Play builds confidence, self-worth, and a space for mistakes.



Last week I attended a Playworker Camp-ference (yes camp not conf-) hosted by SCV Adventure Play and I started to think about just this … I started collecting and reaffirming the WHYS of PLAY. One of the playworkers there that most resonated with me was Fraser Brown … I found myself too deep in thought and listening to take notes or comment when he spoke. But, the one note I wrote down was on a scrap of paper … unconditional positive regard. It stuck with me … something all children deserve …   Carl Rogers a humanistic psychologist outlines it with a definition that states “Unconditional positive regard is where parents, significant others (and other close people to the subject) accepts and loves the person for what he or she is.  Positive regard is not withdrawn if the person does something wrong or makes a mistake” (Saul McLeod, 2014).

Rogers believed that people who were raised within this genuine and positive environment would be able to reach goals, achieve desires and wishes, and grow – basically raising children in a culture of being able to be accepted and receive empathy while learning from mistakes. And that is a HUGE reason of why I believe in PLAY and respecting children. Are you willing to support a culture that allows for NO mistakes or are you willing to support PLAY, risk taking and learning for children?


There is a Time to Write and a Time to Share …

This is a time to share … with education likely coming up against some pretty big walls in the near future I was happy to see the NY Times driving some positive vibes on the EC front. Did you see the article that is basically saying that preschool is about PLAY and Relationships!!!!???? I mean if you summed up their portrait of the school you should be shopping for I essentially interpret it as that. So read on my fellow EC people, Preschool Shoppers, and the like!!! This is what preschool should look like and I feel lucky to say that my typical day is not too far off from this!!!